GETTING OVER BEING CAMERA SHY

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Are you camera shy?  Do you hate having your portrait made?  Are you just expecting any portrait of you will crumble your self esteem?  I've been there. Our perception of self and how it relates to what we see when we see our own reflection, in the mirror and in photographs, changes over time.  Is your relationship with the mirror changing too?  

A PORTRAIT SESSION CAN BOOST YOUR CONFIDENCE

We don’t look like what we used to look like.  And that’s okay.  Looking at images from high school, from college, from my twenties - I can’t believe I ever looked, or was, so young.  And I'm sure in the decades to come I will see images of myself at 40 and think the same thing. 

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There’s a certain point that we hit during your portrait session where you simply forget that you are having your picture taken.  It stops seeming weird, or awkward.  You start enjoying yourself and begin having fun.  You will get to the point where self-awareness drops, I promise.  Have patience. It will come.  

Trying too hard shows.  Through an of one my lenses, I’ve watched body language change as people stand as straight and closed as possible, pull their chins back and bare their teeth.  Inevitably the images show a person smiling as hard as they can and looking nothing like they actually do when they are just being themselves and candid.

Last year, I attempted a self portrait in the studio.  The lighting was lovely, my makeup game was strong, my hair was mostly doing it’s halo of curls thing.  And I hated all of the 900 images I took.  There was something off.  I was trying too hard.  Eventually, I realized that what was missing was a sense of levity; a lightness and candor that I couldn’t muster on my own.  What to do? I called in a professional photographer and asked her to photograph me.  It was then that I realized the absolute difference it makes to have a positive coach on the other side of the camera.  

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As a photographer, I shoot a lot - I pose and move you and I move around too.  There’s a little coaching and laughter.  Laughter is a key element to relaxing and enjoying the process.  Some of the time that I spend with my Modern Glamour clients is spent talking.  Getting comfortable with a new person is an integral part of bringing them into the process.  A supportive and caring atmosphere is created to help you relax and to enjoy yourself. 

LOOK AT YOUR BODY WITH GRATITUDE

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Here's an image of me, shot by a wonderful photographer and good friend.  Feeling relaxed and happy in front of the camera. I'm laughing, which always end up being my favorite images. 

I'm regularly encountering spots that are new to my face and my hands.  Wrinkles, or laugh lines, keep appearing.  There’s not much I can do to stop them.  Even with my daily sunscreen habit.  It’s a part of life.  An earned part.  

When looking at images of ourselves,  we tend to scan immediately for the things we have the most insecurity about.   We look for the thing we dislike about ourselves first.  I want to remind you that you are the only people who is looking for those things first.

Instead, try this. Think about and scan for the parts of you that you like.  Your smile, your hair, your eyes, your legs - whichever parts you dig.  Browse those first.  Look at your body with gratitude.  It’s taken you this far.  

WHO ARE PORTRAITS OF YOU FOR ANYWAY?

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This client brought in a stack of books that were meaningful to her and her partner.  I loved this cheeky denim and patent leather decadently using a stack of books as a footstool.  This was personal, and revealing, but not showing much skin. 

Who are these pictures for?  For you, now.  And for you, later.  Maybe for your family, your children.  There isn’t the one monolithic image that represents you for the rest of your life.  Letting that idea go helps. I know you will enjoy looking at pictures of yourself later.  Maybe tomorrow. Maybe in ten years from now.  A record of a vibrant life. A few facets of an amazing multidimensional person

READY TO HAVE YOUR PORTRAIT MADE?

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Feeling brave?  Ready to Book Your Modern Glamour Session Now? You can trust me to take fantastic care of you and coach you to channel your inner spirit and reveal your outer beauty.  It’s time to revel in your own magic!


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Modern Glamour is a boutique modern glamour & Boston boudoir photography studio run by artist and photographer Allana Taranto.  I view each shoot as a collaboration, and value connecting with my clients to work together to make their dream glamour boudoir shoot happen.

Email me about your ideas for your modern glamour or boudoir portraits.

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